15 Signs of a one-night stand

Your perfect date comes to an end, but instead of just walking you home, he offers to come up to you or drop by his place? It seems your ideal hero is counting on the continuation of the date. If this scenario suits you, you can spend a wonderful night together and go your separate ways. But what if you're looking for a serious relationship? Then it's worth considering – perhaps the guy is just looking for a one-night stand. If you notice any signs of it, your acquaintance with this guy will probably not be as long and romantic as you would expect.

Why do one-night stands happen?

In an ideal world, men and women immediately know what they expect from a relationship and are not afraid to talk about it openly. Often people who really want to build a relationship can be found on dating sites for serious relationships. But it just so happens that in modern society, men are more likely to aim for short flings, while women want to build long-term trusting relationships. That is why the guy you like may be just the one who is looking for a one-night stand. If you are not ready for such a scenario, it can hurt you. 

"I met this guy in the bar where I went with my girlfriends to hang out. He was funny and sweet, and I thought that here he was – the very prince I was looking for. On the first date, he behaved very liberated, constantly strove to touch me, and I could not resist him. After a night spent together, he never called again and his answer to my numerous messages was, “I was looking for a one-night stand. If you were a modern thinker, you would immediately understand this and just enjoyed the night together.” I was very disappointed."

The first thing you need to know – it's not about you. Second, not all men are like that. But to avoid unnecessary frustration, we advise you to carefully consider the behavior of your partner in order to understand that you need to move on and not get hung up on a guy who is just looking for an adventure.

Signs of a one-night stand 

1. He constantly compliments you about your appearance and especially your body.
2. He constantly talks about his experiences with previous girls and how sex is nothing serious, and it's just a way to have a good time.
3. He asks you to send some nudes to "cheer him up."
4. He follows a huge number of girls on social networks and mostly likes their bikini photos.
5. On the first date, he starts telling you that he is crazy about you and dying of desire.
6. He tries to gaslight you, convincing you that you are too serious and old-fashioned about sex.
7. He insists on physical intimacy in the first minutes of a date.
8. He openly tells you that he is not looking for a serious relationship because he is not ready yet / recently broke up with a girl / is leaving for another city, but still offers to spend a night together.
9. He tells you that he takes physical intimacy very seriously and cannot be with a woman he does not love, but on the first date, he offers you intimacy as “you are special”.
10. During your first intimacy, you feel that he is only interested in meeting his own needs and does not care about making you comfortable.
11. After a night spent together, he does not call, text, or pays much less attention to you.
12. Immediately after your night together, you see him with another girl, "just a friend."
13. After physical intimacy, he suggests to stay friends or "friends with benefits."
14. He ignores your attempts to discuss the situation, laughs it off, or says that everything is fine, when, in fact, it is not.
15. He does not try to build a relationship with you, does not care about your emotions, and only appears if there is a prospect of physical intimacy.

What to do next?

Almost every woman once met a “one-night stand-man”. But this does not mean that you need to end trying to find your love.

"A couple of years ago, I was terribly in love with a guy I met on Instagram. I didn't notice the obvious red flags, and when he asked me on a date, I was beside myself with happiness. Of course, it turned out to be a one-night stand. At first, I felt crushed; it seemed to me that all men are scoundrels. But analyzing this situation, I realized that I constantly felt like a mouse and was ready to run after any guy who would compliment me. I can't say that it was easy to overcome it. But I gained self-love and finally built a relationship with a really nice guy who appreciates me for who I am."

So, if you had a one-night stand, think about why did this happen? Are you confident in your seductiveness? Do you think that apart from sex, you have nothing to offer? Or maybe you believe in fairy tales about love at first sight so easily because you feel lonely? By answering these questions honestly, you can figure out what to work on to avoid one-night stands in the future.

Remember that the sexiest thing about a woman is her self-love and confidence. You have the right to choose whether to build relationships or have one-night stands – no one can judge you for that. The main thing is to know what you want exactly and not settle for less.